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pARENTING sUCCESS TEST
1. Is parenting your adopted child more challenging than
you anticipated?
2. On a scale of 1-10, with 10 signifying the best, what is your confidence level as a parent today?
3. Is your parenting confidence level steady, gradually changing, or unpredictable?
4. Does your adopted child readily talk about his or her adoption with you, or is he or she defensive?
5. Do you struggle with when and how to talk about adoption with your child?
6. Did you suffer infertility and/or loss before adopting?
7. Has your adoption agency provided post-adoption education resources for you?
8. How do you feel about your child’s birth parents? welcoming…comfortable…irritated….resentful….jealous…competitive?
9. Have you experienced intrusive, unsettling thoughts about your child, your role as a parent, or your child’s birth parents?
10. Do you know how to effectively comfort your child when he or she is sad about adoption?
11. What do you think your child would say about your success as a parent?
12. Are you afraid to share parenting struggles with those not touched by adoption because others might attribute your challenges to adoption?
13. Did you know there is a sweet spot of success for adoptive parents, where you can enjoy peace no matter the circumstances in your life?
13. Does your child’s acting-out behavior trigger old behavior patterns in you?
14. Do you know what you need to provide to help your child receive your unconditional love?
15. Do you believe an adopted teen’s or adult’s poor choices are a reflection of poor parenting?
16. Do you need encouragement?
2. On a scale of 1-10, with 10 signifying the best, what is your confidence level as a parent today?
3. Is your parenting confidence level steady, gradually changing, or unpredictable?
4. Does your adopted child readily talk about his or her adoption with you, or is he or she defensive?
5. Do you struggle with when and how to talk about adoption with your child?
6. Did you suffer infertility and/or loss before adopting?
7. Has your adoption agency provided post-adoption education resources for you?
8. How do you feel about your child’s birth parents? welcoming…comfortable…irritated….resentful….jealous…competitive?
9. Have you experienced intrusive, unsettling thoughts about your child, your role as a parent, or your child’s birth parents?
10. Do you know how to effectively comfort your child when he or she is sad about adoption?
11. What do you think your child would say about your success as a parent?
12. Are you afraid to share parenting struggles with those not touched by adoption because others might attribute your challenges to adoption?
13. Did you know there is a sweet spot of success for adoptive parents, where you can enjoy peace no matter the circumstances in your life?
13. Does your child’s acting-out behavior trigger old behavior patterns in you?
14. Do you know what you need to provide to help your child receive your unconditional love?
15. Do you believe an adopted teen’s or adult’s poor choices are a reflection of poor parenting?
16. Do you need encouragement?
